Seat of the Observer.

Sometimes we are the problem.

That does not mean anything is wrong with you. That you are not deserving or good enough. Cease fire and hear me out.

Take your own emotions and intentions out of it, look from the seat of the observer.

You just might be the problem and not the solution. I know no one wants to hear that because our sense of self tends to get a bit inflamed at times… I call it You-itis. It is not personal. Somethings have nothing to do with you. Many of us can’t see past ourselves to get to that point of understanding.

That’s alright. No one is perfect.

You can have the best of intentions and still do harm. Here comes the L word. Love.

When you love someone or something – truly.

Go sit in the seat of the observer.

If any of your actions, words, or lack of negatively impacts the individual or thing on the other end of the equation… you have to own it. Without taking it personally.

Maybe that wrench has already been thrown… you cannot un-throw it, but you can get out of the garage. Pry your fingers open, put it down, walk away.

Is that going to hurt? In my experience … yup … BUT if you remember that L word… continuously hurting someone or something that matters to you - in any capacity - regardless of intention, should hurt you more than living without it ever will.

You are already whole without anything outside of yourself, if you aren’t then that L word is an illusion. You are worthy. You are also sometimes the problem.

It takes one to know one and I have absolutely been the problem at times. I own it without taking it personally. No need to berate myself for it, I am also deserving of the same grace that is extended to others.

Give yourself some grace.